In how you fall in love, show up, and protect yourself... Let's look at the codependent stage, the Independent stage, and the third sweet becoming that is on offer... These three stages can be progressive (i.e we grow through them), and a life-change such as an ending, separation, divorce, etc, can throw us into a different or earlier stage. They relate to attachment and thus this can have us revisit core wounds to heal. Which stage is most familiar to you? If you are in the
Making decisions where we don't betray ourselves for the sake of what we are hanging onto. Why we carry other people along with us, (their validation, their opinion). How to "set them down", to set them and you free. Moving through decision angst/ anxiety into a place of hearing what is true for you. Listening for your genuine Yes, No, and answer. Whakatauki (proverb): Kia Mau, Kia Tukuna. What we grasp/ hold onto, and what we give/ release. Segment of KORERO MIRIMIRI (Healin
Deep support in life-transition, transformation, clearing trauma, healing injuries or illness. Release emotional story, clear generational trauma and the songlines in the body. Reinvigorate the mauri (life essence). ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ ON HEALING, THE SESSION, AND HOW BEST TO PREPARE. Our lives serve as a catalyst. Here to shape us, define us, bring us to ou
Silence in nature helps us feel the essence of things, to a deeper intimacy and connection with life. We tap resources, strength, courage and a vision we didn’t know was there. When we are agitated, confused or stuck, we can face it and be curious about all of it, with a commitment to finally moving forward with it, even when we don’t know how... When you have a decision to make, carry it with you outside and try this. Whatever decision you are carrying on your heart and shou
The Coward and The Hero. Truth vs Peace. There are no rules anymore. It's both amazing and terrifying - because it all comes down to you. Ask yourself; what rules am I entertaining in my mind, in my body and where did they come from? Did I choose them? Are they worthy regulations – do they add to my boundary, my life and discipline? Are they evolving constantly with my heart? Break your own rules and see what happens. Because what is more valuable is to be discerning. It’s es
8 weeks ago, to celebrate my 60th birthday, I stepped from this circle into the bush, alone - on a 40 hour Vision Quest. For 2 nights I went deep into the bush and deep into my own heart. I had with me 10L of water, a notepad and pen, a length of canvas tied between trees, a sleeping bag and mat, a torch and warm clothing. No phone, no watch, no book, no food, no input that could distract me from being with myself. But I had Mother Earth and all she offered, as space became a
I’ve been amongst a rite of passage of my own. These passages are transformation at their core, and always into what has been growing in us, shaping us for a longer time. They arrive after an entire journey and story, and eventually burst forth to be lived in us, making it very real. Sometimes it’s the letting go stage that really annihilates us, sometimes it’s the passage through the unknown, finding our way, for me recently it’s been the integration of all of that; the clai
As you read these, take 1 minute for each (5 mins total), to feel into it - rather than flicking through online stimulus. Allow each one to be a gateway into what you can give to yourself. Each of the 5 guidelines are taken directly from the work and words of Joanna Macey, with editors additions following* Haaweatea Bryson 1. COME FROM GRATITUDE To be alive in this beautiful, self-organizing universe - to participate in the dance of life with senses to perceive it, lungs that
Who you are is amazing - but you know what? We’re afraid of being generous. We’re afraid to be generous with who we are. In the dance between really wanting to be seen, to be recognized for who we are and what we offer this world, we can instead end up hoarding it all inside. We go from wanting to be freely ourselves and valued, to hiding it… enduring the endless wait for the (insert...) right timing and ideal ingredients. What are we afraid of? I’ve found it comes down to tw
Wherever you are reading this, it’s your experiment in this moment. “Are you here?” Are you really here in this room? I don’t mean your body here, because that is obviously the case. But are you here? Do you feel that you are here in the room? Are you aware of being present here, and of your actual experience in this moment? Or are you lost in thoughts, fantasies, plans, emotional reactions? Are you here, or are you busy liking and disliking? Are you here, or are you busy jud
I’d been camping in the desert for three weeks. The rattlesnake trail to the left of my tent showed up the first morning I woke here, and even now, it was still visible on my left stretching voluptuously into the distance. Tonight was a new moon. We were camped at 12,000 feet and it could be so dark, that I couldn’t see my own hand waving in front of my face. Tonight’s assignment was to walk into the darkness alone with a question, and return with the answer. I woke sometime
When you're sitting with this one question honestly, what can it look like for you? How will you nurture this question? What's one thing that is frustrating which you can turn into a loving encounter? How will you do that? #soul #date #souldate #lifequestions #love
For when you step into the unknown When a significant event turns life upside down, there will be a transformation. We step into the unknown - without the knowing of who or what will emerge.
One of the ways life does this is through loss. Loss creates a hole inside that we have to face. Grief has big things to show us. It is a powerful cracking open, to what is, not just what was.
When we are in the heart-breaking of letting go, we feel everything. Right here is the pain,