In how you fall in love, show up, and protect yourself...
Let's look at the codependent stage, the Independent stage, and the third sweet becoming that is on offer...
These three stages can be progressive (i.e we grow through them), and a life-change such as an ending, separation, divorce, etc, can throw us into a different or earlier stage. They relate to attachment and thus this can have us revisit core wounds to heal.
Which stage is most familiar to you?
If you are in the Codependent stage, the 'work' is in strengthening your inner sense of who you are as an individual.
If you are in the Independent stage, the 'work' is to trust that your internal protection is enough, so you can be more open, and vulnerable, (a different kind of courageous) in relationship.
If you are in the third stage, what do you notice here? How long does it last? How do you bring yourself back each time?